Have you ever had a bad day (or week, or month, or year), and just think: “why is this happening to me?”.

Often when we’re going through tough times, we tend to be very focused on ourselves. This makes sense, but at the same time, we need to be careful. We don’t want our minds get trapped into only thinking about ourselves.

The world doesn’t revolve around you, me, or anyone else. When we begin thinking things like “all the bad things are happening to me” and “it’s so not fair”,  we start making ourselves believe that we have no power. And this is a very dangerous headspace to be in.

Taking back control

The magic happens when we change our mindset from believing that we are POWERLESS into believing that we are POWERFUL. Although it’s true that we don’t have control over everything, what we DO have control over is our minds and our actions.

In other words, we have control over the way we REACT to situations in life.

In order to take back control and feel like you have more power, there are a few simple things that you can start doing. These are:

  1. Doing things you love and that make you happy (no matter how small)
  2. Thinking outwardly and helping others
  3. Making small and easy lifestyle changes that help you feel better

Once you start adding these 3 little things into your life, you’ll be amazed at how much more IN CONTROL of your life you’ll feel! Plus, you’ll also stop blaming the world for how bad you feel because you’ll realize that YOU are the only one who can influence the way you feel!

Honestly, the more you do these 3 things, the more they will begin to change your life.

So let’s go into each of them in a little bit more detail:

1) Doing things you love and that make you happy

This one may seem like of a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many people don’t do things that make them happy (my younger self included!).

The thing is, many people don’t actually know what makes them truly happy. If that’s the case for you, stay tuned because I’ll be writing an article soon that will outline exactly how to figure that out.

But for those of you who do know what makes you happy: start doing it today! Even if it’s only for 10 minutes, it will make a difference.

Here are some ideas of things that may make you happy:

  1. Doodling with pretty colours
  2. Picking up that instrument you’ve been staring at for so long
  3. Calling up a friend who makes you laugh
  4. Dancing to upbeat music (my personal favourite)
  5. Meditating
  6. Going for a walk in nature
  7. Kicking around a ball outside
  8. Reading a favourite book
  9. Cooking a new, exotic dish
  10. Writing a fun little poem

When you do these things, not only are you making yourself happier, you’re also training your brain to realize that YOU have the power to make a difference in your day (and your life in general!).

2) Think outwardly and help others

As I’ve already mentioned, when we feel down, we tend to be laser focused on ourselves (“everything bad is happening to me”, “I’ll never feel better” etc etc).

This is a very self-centred way of thinking. And there’s one simple way to change this: start thinking about others instead. By doing this, you’ll take the focus away from yourself and everything that’s going “wrong” in your life until you forget about your “problems” altogether.

If you want to start acting less selfishly, begin by asking yourself these questions:

  1. Are there other people out there who are having a worse day than you? (the answer is always yes!)
  2. What could you do today that could brighten someone else’s day?
  3. How are your friends/family doing? What’s new in their lives

When you change your mindset to think about other people, you’re proving to yourself that you have the POWER to really make a difference – not only in your life, but in other people’s lives as well!

3) Make small and easy lifestyle changes that help you feel better

This is the final part of the equation, and it’s the one that’s far too often overlooked.

When we’re feeling down, we often make ourselves believe that we just can’t do certain things. For example: “I have no self-control and I can’t eat healthy. I’ll just have some comfort food” or “I’m feeling way too crappy, I don’t have the energy to exercise”, or “I’m so lazy, all I can do is lay in bed all day”.

While these may seem extremely tempting (Lord knows I’ve spent many a day in bed watching Netflix and eating junk food all day), they’re not doing you any favours.

For example – let’s look at the effect ‘staying in bed all day’ has on you: 

  1. When you stay in bed all day, you’re not moving your body at all. This can cause your muscles to become tensed up, which can then lead you to feeling lethargic and miserable. Plus, you’re not getting any endorphins from moving around!
  2. Laziness fuels more laziness. If you do this for one whole day, it’s going to suck all your energy and you may end up feeling even WORSE the next day!
  3. Humans thrive on being productive. If you aren’t doing anything productive, then you won’t feel accomplished. And feeling accomplished is something that makes you feel more confident and more inspired to keep doing things you love!

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t relax and take it easy every once in a while, but there are much better ways to do so (which I’ll be writing a post about very soon!) 

Here are 6 simple lifestyle changes that will help you take back your POWER and make you feel GREAT:

 1. Eat a healthier breakfast

2. Reduce your sugar intake

3. Go for a walk

4. Do some yoga

5. Wake up earlier

6. Practice deep breathing

Okay, I could go on forever here…so I’ll probably turn this into a full post later!

The more you make these simple lifestyle changes, the better you’ll feel. Plus, it will also reinforce the idea that you DO have control and that even the smallest things you do can have a huge impact on your life.

If you want a little bit of extra help feeling better, you can check out my self-care resources below!