5 best strategies to fuel self-growth and unlock your fullest potential

5 best strategies to fuel self-growth and unlock your fullest potential

The most beautiful and most unifying thing about life is that we are all on this earth with the same (but individually unique) purpose – to grow and become the best version of ourselves. But in this rat race of an age we live in, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that “self-growth” means “career-growth”.

The truth is, your career doesn’t necessarily dictate how much you’ve grown as a person. Often, we find the most self-growth outside of work and school. I know I certainly have. I truly believe that if we reframe our minds to focus on our own self-growth over career-growth, the world would be a very different place.

These are my five favourite strategies for fueling my own self-growth, and trust me, none of them require meeting strict deadlines at work or finishing any school assignments!

Travel somewhere new – ideally for longer than a month

If you’ve ever travelled anywhere for an extended period of time, you’re no stranger to the serious amount of growth that comes with it. Travelling forces you to start from zero in a completely new environment – whether that’s a new city, province, or country. And with that comes a ton of life lessons.

When I moved to Scotland, every single day brought new opportunities to expand, develop, and just learn about myself in ways that I never would have if I stayed back home in Ontario.

We’re extremely fortunate to be living in an era where travel has become so accessible. Taking a gap year (let’s be honest – gap years) is becoming the norm among our generation.

But if travelling for an extended period of time just isn’t financially possible for you (trust me, I get it), short-term is your next best option. Go on a week-long Contiki trip to Brazil…or Greece…or Vietnam! The world – and an undiscovered part of yourself – awaits!


Get outside of your comfort zone (and stop being self-conscious about it!)

If you love belly dancing, but you’re way too nervous to sign up for classes, sign up for them anyway. The fear of having people judge you is holding you back from being your authentic self.

My life opened up in so many extraordinary ways when I finally realized that strangers do not care.

I guarantee that when you’re on the dancefloor shimmying your stuff, everyone else is too busy worrying about how they look to care at all about you!

There are so many daily practices you can do to get your comfort zone walls tumbling down.

Go to a bar alone. Go to the movies alone. Strike up a conversation with that cute Italian barista. Get lost in a new (and perhaps a bit eclectic) neighbourhood. Go to a palm reader. Send a message to that boyfriend who broke your heart in grade 10.

When you start doing things that push you outside of your comfort zone, over time you’ll get more comfortable with it. And once you’re comfortable feeling a bit uncomfortable, a world of possibilities opens up to you!

Re-awaken your inner child

Many of us who have passed the threshold from childhood to adulthood are in a constant state of mourning for our inner child.

We may not realize it consciously, but deep down we all yearn for a missing part of ourselves – the part that was more free, more creative, more imaginative, more playful, and more open to life.

As we age, we often lose touch with our inner child. This may manifest in a number of ways, including (but not limited to):

  • Having a pessimistic outlook on life; never really feeling excited about things
  • Conforming to what everyone else is doing even when you really don’t want to (a wardrobe full of grey and black when your favourite colours are pink and green)
  • Feeling overly anxious and self-conscious around people (“What are they saying about me? What do they think of me?”)
  • A paintbox full of untouched paints
  • A bookshelf full of unread books
  • A forgotten hobby
  • A forgotten passion
  • A forgotten backyard

If any of this sounds like you, don’t worry. You can re-awaken your inner child by doing a bit of mental time-travelling and getting back in touch with the things that made you light up when you were young.

And once you do, you’ll discover a beautiful, long-forgotten side of yourself you didn’t realize how much you were missing.

Journal every day

When it comes to self-growth, journaling is the equivalent to breathing.

Every morning when you wake up, write as many pages as you can of stream of consciousness style writing.

When we write without thinking too much about it, what we’re really doing is getting in contact with our higher self (our soul).

The magical thing about stream of consciousness journaling is that all you have to do is show up on the page and your soul will do the rest. It may sound a little bit cheesy, but before you mock it, try it.

I promise you that through the physical act of writing, insights will begin to bubble up inside of you and flood out onto the page – insights into what you’re truly thinking and feeling.

After a few months, it’s amazing to look back at older entries to see how much you’ve grown through the pages.

Listen, listen, listen – to everyone and everything

Make a deal with yourself. Instead of thinking “I already know this”, instead ask “what can I learn from this?”.

This simple way of reframing your mind can have a radical impact on your personal growth.

Once you approach the world with an open mind and an open ear, you’re opening yourself up to the possibility of learning something new every day and exposing yourself to new perspectives that may change the way you think about life.

Listening to podcasts and reading books are two of my favourite tools for learning something new, so I always have a book in my bag and a couple good podcasts downloaded on my phone.

Ted Talks are another fantastic resource for expanding yourself and exploring new ways of thinking.

But sometimes, even just talking to a stranger at a bar, or a party, or even a bus stop can expose you to eye-opening new perspectives.

Everyone has their own story to share, and we can all learn from a good story. Try treating everyone you meet like your guru and see what unexpected insights you discover.


I continue to use these five strategies to grow and expand myself each and every day. I hope that you too will benefit from them as much as I do!

I wish you good luck on your journey – remember I’m right there with you.

Natalie Burns-Holland

Natalie Burns-Holland

Content Creator at Mindaya

Natalie is a freelance writer living in Edinburgh, Scotland.
Goal Setting Worksheet: 5 Easy Steps to Making a Great Plan

Goal Setting Worksheet: 5 Easy Steps to Making a Great Plan

The first step to achieving your goals is to make a kick-ass plan, but the idea of making a big plan can be pretty daunting. Enter the goal setting worksheet. This is a super easy way to plan your big goals completely from scratch.

And just an fyi, goal setting and planning doesn’t have to be for the ultra-intense-super-achiever (although it can be), it can also be for people who have personal goals, such as becoming more mindful, getting healthier, or being more social! It can be for everyone to help them reach their career/life/financial/educational/etc goals!

So for this post, I wanted to focus on creating the perfect goal setting worksheet that is tailored to your own personal needs and goals.

How helpful can a goal setting worksheet actually be?

For some people, a goal setting worksheet might be just another piece of paper that gets crumpled and stepped on and used as a napkin or doodling paper.

But if you actually commit to using one, it can be an amazing way to motivate yourself and remind yourself frequently to stay on track!

Before you start:

Removing Expectations

You need to remove the expectations that society/ your parents/ and any other sources are putting on you and start to think about what you really want.

So with that being said, here are two big questions you need to ask yourself:

1. What would I do if I didn’t need to impress anybody?

2. What would I do if I knew I couldn’t fail? (cliche I know, but important)

These questions are simple but we tend to ignore the answers because our fears of disappointing others and of failure are too strong.

keep this in mind as you go through the next steps and starting making your goal planning worksheet.

Step 1: Figuring Out What You Really Want

I want you to focus on what you want to do and how you want to feel.

Understanding what you do want

For your general work/life goals, here are some prompts that can help you to better understand what you want:

What activities/work make you feel the happiest?

What do you feel like you are meant to do?
What would your perfect life consist of?
What do you love to do?
What is your dream?
What is your motto/mantra?
What do you want to do right now?
When do you feel most alive/energetic?
What makes you feel excited?
Is there anything missing from your life that you would like to add? (time with friends, exercise, time in nature, more challenging work, time to relax)
What do you imagine yourself doing in 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

These are questions that will help you to decide what you really want and what will make you feel good in life if that is what you want to do.

Understanding What You Don’t Want to Do

You should also address what you don’t want to do in life. When pursuing any goal in life, there are going to be aspects that you don’t enjoy that much. You might be able to deal with some of the more difficult tasks, but there might be some things that aren’t really worth it to you. And that’s totally fine – it will just show you that that specific path is not the right one for you.

What/who is significantly negatively impacting your life and causing you stress?

What things do you really not enjoy doing in your regular life that you find yourself doing quite frequently?

 Understanding the Factors Holding You Back

There also might be certain aspects of your life that are preventing you from reaching your full potential in your professional goals. I have outlined some questions that could help you figure out some personal development goals that will help you to create the right skills to help you out in the future for your life goals.

Are there certain times in your life where you feel a block/barrier that is preventing you from doing things that you want to do?

Are there things you wish you had the courage to do, but can’t?

Are there habits that are wasting time for you? (TV, sleeping, nervous habits)

Hopefully these questions will give you some indication of some personal goals you could start with or give you an idea of the goals that you might not want to pursue because of the negative aspects that you might not want to deal with.

If you want some more help with finding the right goals for you, you can check out another article of mine: How to Find Goals that Align With Who You Really Are

Step 2: Categorizing Your Goals

Now, what areas in life do you have goals for and which are the most important to you?

  • Professional goals (career, job, livelihood)
  • Physical goals (body, health, weight)
  • Relationship goals (romantic, friendly, familial)
  • Financial goals (savings, wealth/money, financial habits)
  • Emotional/mental goals (feelings, mental health)
  • Spiritual goals (connection to something greater, your spiritual path and values)
  • Experiences/hobbies goals (travel goals/other fun experiences)
  • Educational goals (learning and knowledge)
  • Philanthropic goals (giving back to the community, world)

These nine areas should give you a good basis for the areas in which you should base your goals. This also might show you that you actually might have more goals than you might have thought.

So when you fill out your proper goal setting worksheet that you can download here: it can be best to only focus on one goal at a time.

Step 3: Narrowing Down And Focusing On One Goal At A Time

You can go through the next few steps for each goal if you’d like so that you can narrow it down into more manageable pieces.

Basically, you are going to have your main goal, which you have determined using the steps above, but you also want to find the smaller goals and steps that you will need to achieve first in order to reach this bigger goal.

So what you need to do is further break down your goals into mini goals and then break those down into micro goals.

Mind Map/Flow Chart

It is a good idea to do a mind map or a flow chart to see if any of your bigger goals are actually steps to reaching your other big goals, or if there are mini-goals that will help you work towards multiple bigger goals.

Tip: This is also a good time to check in to see if there are any goals you have that really don’t fit in with your major goals. Sometimes we don’t have time to complete all of our goals and sometimes certain things we want are more distracting than anything else.

In the image below (which is from my goal planning workbook) will help you with a visual representation of your goals and mini goals.

Step 4: Defining Your Goals

For all of these goals (especially the bigger goals), you want to be as descriptive as possible because you want to have a very clear idea of what you want and the steps that it will take to get there.

So, there are a few exercises that you can do to help define your goals. And don’t worry, I have compiled all of these into a goal setting worksheet (or workbook, rather) that you can download.

5 Ws + H

So the first thing you want to do is answer the Who, What, Where, When, Why, and How? Answering these questions will give you a lot more insight into what it will take to reach this goal.

More specific questions you can ask are:


Who will be involved in this Goal?

Who will be affected by this goal?

Who’s help might you need in order to achieve this goal?


Be as specific with this goal as you can.

What is the final result you will achieve with this goal?

What resources will you need to achieve this goal?


Where will this goal take place?

Where will you need to be/go in order to reach this goal?

Where will you work to reach this goal?


Why is it important that you reach this goal?

Why do you want to reach this goal?

This question is a bit of a double-check to ensure that you really want to complete this goal and that it is for you and not for someone else. Also, it’s a great way to motivate yourself with all the reasons that you want to do it!

Making SMART Goals

You will also want to check that your goal is SMART. Smart goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound.

To check that you have a smart goal, you can go through the following:


Be very clear with your goal. You want as many details as possible so that you know exactly what you need to achieve.


how will you know that your goal is complete? ex: how much weight do you want to lose? what will you have achieved?


How will you reach this goal? Are there any constraints that might prevent you from reaching this goal? (ie. financial, where you live, other commitments)


This will be more for your mini goals. Do they work towards the overall goal that you want to achieve and towards the life that you want?


You need to make sure that you have a deadline or series of deadlines that you can adhere to so that you stay on track.

Once you do this with your bigger goals, you can go through again with your mini goals and micro goals.

Now that you have your goals well-defined, you can start to make a plan.

Step 5: Making a Plan

You can start to map out when you want your milestones to be.

Mapping Your Milestones

1 Year Goal:

9-month goal:

6-month goal:

3-month goal:

1-month goal:

1-week goal:

Today’s goal:

Once you have those goals figured out, as well as your mini goals and even micro goals – you can start putting your plan into action by filling out a yearly calendar, then monthly, weekly, and daily.  I have included yearly, monthly, and weekly calendars in the printable goal setting worksheet here.

It helps to always keep these calendars nearby with your goals clearly written out so that you can keep these goals at the forefront of your mind. When you start seeing these every day, you will be inspired and motivated to work towards them – especially if you already have all the steps written out too!

If you want an even more thorough goal setting worksheet (well actually it’s a workbook), check out this one. I use it myself and it is so thorough and so detailed. It’s around $30 but totally worth it! It has 60+ pages and even just using a couple of them has helped me out a lot!

But if you don’t want to shell out the cash, you can download my free goal planning workbook below: not as thorough but I will be working on updating it and making it a lot better!

Also, a huge part of achieving your goals is your mindset, so you should check out my free mindset training course. It will be specifically dedicated to reframing your mind and habits toward reaching your goals.

Starting a Bullet Journal – For Beginners: A Step-by-step guide

Starting a Bullet Journal – For Beginners: A Step-by-step guide

If you are reading this, then you are probably looking to start a bullet journal. And if I had to guess, you might be a bit overwhelmed by all of the ideas and possibilities out there for starting a journal. I know I was. That’s why I thought I would write about the best and most straightforward way to start your bullet journal.

If you don’t know what a bullet journal is, I have one question for you: do you live under a rock?

I feel like everywhere I look (well on the internet), there is somebody talking about bullet journaling. This is with good reason because bullet journals are an incredible tool to organize your mind, life, work, hobbies, and even your mental and physical health.

But, like I said, it can be overwhelming. That’s why I’m going to give you a step-by-step, quick and easy guide to bullet journaling for beginners, so that you can start to reap the benefits of this awesome tool as soon as possible!

*Disclaimer: This post may contain some affiliate links, but there’s so additional cost to you! And it’ll help support my blog and allow me to provide free, awesome content!

Step 1: Figure out what you want to include in your bullet journal

First of all, you should decide if you want your bullet journal to be mainly professional, personal/hobby related, or health and wellness related. It could definitely be all 3, but sometimes it is nice to maybe have two bullet journals.

For example, you could have your health and wellness journal next to your bed, so you can use it in the morning and at night. Then you could have your professional one at your desk/at work.

There are endless amounts of topics; I have narrowed down a few in the following image. Again, this part might be a bit overwhelming but I would start by focusing on 3 main topics that you would like to include/track in your journal.

Step 2: Decide on your date format.

A problem that I have always found with store-bought planners is that they never have the format I want. Personally, I like to have a monthly view right next to my weekly views for that month. Also, sometimes it’s nice to have a yearly view somewhere, just to give a high-level overview. And when you are tracking your food or exercise for example, it’s nice to have daily pages for that.

A bonus of having a bullet journal is that you can change it as you figure out what works for you, so you can just start out with a weekly view + some daily views, but you can change it later if you find that you don’t use the daily views as much.

Step 3: Add your index page

This was something that I was missing for a while, and before I used one, I found that my bullet journal was a bit scattered and I was worried about messing it up or adding certain pages where they didn’t quite fit.

All these problems go away when you have an index page! An index page allows you to put pages in wherever you please, because you can just refer back to your index page!

This brings up part 2; it is a good idea to number your pages. It is slightly tedious, but it will definitely pay off in the end.

This also solves a common issue that may come up, which is when you fill up an ideas page, for example, that you want to continue it on another page that is further down in your journal. Well, you can just add that second page number into your index, and if you want, you can even add that to the original ideas page itself, so that you can remind yourself of it.

Step 4: Adding the bells and whistles

There are a lot of cool extras that you can add to your bullet journal to really spice it up. But again, the amount of options can be extremely overwhelming.

These extra bells and whistles I’m talking about are the fancy designs, creative mood trackers, a cover page (if you dare!), and signifiers (what does that even mean?! Don’t worry; I’ll get to it in a second).

There are probably a lot of other fancy things you can add, but I think it’s all a little too much. You can totally do them and get as creative as you want, but I want this to be more for the sake of functionality. So for now I’ll just stick to the points I mentioned and how you can make the most of them.

Fancy Designs

This one is self-explanatory, but it is something that can be a bit intimidating when you look at the amazing works of art that are on the internet. I would just say, that you should do what will please you – maybe do some flowers in the corners of your pages or add a page dedicated just to doodling! Make it what you want and don’t get caught up trying to make it perfect!

Cover page

This is another very intimidating part of starting any journal, especially in a notebook that you love and don’t want to ruin! I’d say to either leave the first page blank, or just write something simple. Mine just says “Sagesse’s Productivity Bullet Journal”. Simple, but effective.

Creative Mood Trackers

Mood trackers are a great way to analyze your mental wellbeing – which is so important! And, if you are tracking other things you are doing each day, you can see how your day-to-day activities impact your mood and mental health.

Using mood trackers is an INCREDIBLE way to start optimizing your wellbeing and productivity, and you can just start by writing your mood of the day in your monthly planner. You can also get more creative and have little drawings that correspond to a day of the month and then colour code them according to your mood, to gt a visual representation of your mood throughout the month!


Now what are these?! I don’t know if these are universally called signifiers, but they are basically little symbols that you can use to sort out the information that you put into your

(Take my own pictures for these posts)

Step 5: Pick your journal and use it!

There are so many journals to choose from, but I have a few suggestions for types of journals to buy.

Grid paper: The journal I currently use has grid lines on it, which I really like because it helps me space out everything nicely. It’s also great if you are going to draw boxes, weekly/monthly calendars, etc.

Blank journal: This is great if you are more artistic. You have a blank canvas and you can make your journal into whatever you’d like it to be!

Regular ol’ lined journal: Uhhh boring! Just kidding, this is just the classic journal, but I actually find that the lines are a bit too restricting for my taste. I like to be free or at least have the grid to compensate for my less than perfect ability to draw straight lines and boxes!

I like the journals from MUJI (that’s where I got mine), a lot of them are made from recycled material which is really nice. They’re all very simple and you can stock up on multiple for when you start on your next bullet journal.

As for the cuter, more fun journals, I would suggest chapters or indigo. They always have cute journals and they frequently have good sales on older journals!

Here are some other journals that you can easily order from amazon!

Extra step: Make sure you use your journal!

You’re not going to gain anything from your journal if you don’t use it consistently – so make it a habit to start using it. Keep it next to your bed or on your desk and use it when you get up or as soon as you get to work. Or use it at the end of the day as a reflection tool!

Happy bullet journaling!

If you want some extra help with organizing your life, you should check out my Dream Life Goal Planner. It has journal prompts to help you figure out what you truly want and it has goal planning tips and templates to help you get on your way to living your best and most authentic life!

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Owner of Mindaya

Hey guys, it’s Sagesse – the face behind website! I’m dedicated to helping you find freedom your anxiety and overcome the mental obstacles that are standing in the way of your best life!
How to Design Your Dream Life: 5 Steps Towards Creating the Life You Have Always Wanted

How to Design Your Dream Life: 5 Steps Towards Creating the Life You Have Always Wanted

So today’s post is going to be a nice and inspirational one! I hope my other posts are also inspirational to you guys, but this one hopefully will get your butts in gear if you haven’t already started creating your dream life!

If you decide to focus on what you want and follow my steps, you can be as happy as this guy!

I think a lot of people have an idea in their head of what they want their life to be like, but don’t actually think that they can achieve it. I think some people are also too caught up in how they think life should be that they haven’t even considered that they could have a lot more of what they want from life!

What I have learned in the past few years, is that if you can narrow down what you want in life to the few (but important) things that make you happy and just focus on them, you will be able to achieve them and you will be very happy. Maybe you can’t do or have it all, but you can certainly have the things that will really make your life wonderful.

So here are the steps you can take towards designing your dream life.

Step 1 – Figure out what you actually want from life.

Maybe you know this already, but maybe you don’t. A lot of us forget what we really want from life as different stresses and events come up in our lives and get on top of us. There are also a lot of things that we think we want in life (a big house, a nice car, the best clothes) that actually don’t contribute to our overall happiness.

What do you want to do and accomplish in life?

How do you want to feel?

Who do you want to surround yourself with?

What skills do you want to learn?

Do you want to design your dream life around your career?

Do you want to design your career around your life? (I chose this option – I have way too many non-career related things that I want to do)

Step 2 – Figure out what you don’t want in life

There are a lot of things that we face on a daily basis that do not bring us joy and often bring us stress, anger, and sadness. Yet for some reason, we still allow these things (or people) into our lives.

You should do some reflection to see if there are certain stresses, people, activities, or burdens that would be better off not in your life.

This can also go for things that you may enjoy right now, but may not serve you in the long run.

For me, this is alcohol. It’s super fun, but it makes me way less productive and I feel like crap the next day – so I’m trying to just cut it out of my life.

You should also ask yourself how much money or how many material possessions you really need in life. This can take a lot of stress off in your life, and like most people, you might be inclined to work your life away just for money.

When I decided that I didn’t need a ton of money in my life, I felt a huge weight lift off of me and I felt like my options for what I wanted to do completely freed up. If I didn’t need a crazy amount of money, I could pursue a career that I love and not something that could make me a lot of money (but stress me out too much).

Step 3 – Get rid of things that get in your way

This includes the stuff that you have identified in step 2.

It also includes beliefs and negative self-talk that are preventing you from having the life you want.

Deep down, a lot of people will believe that they are not worthy or that they don’t think they will be able to achieve what they want.

You can read more about limiting beliefs in my article here.

Some people think that the only people who achieve these great lives were lucky or “caught a break”. While sometimes that may be slightly true, for the most part these people just worked really hard and completely focused on what they wanted and abandoned the things that got in their way.

You should also think about the other ways that you might be getting in your own way. The biggest way I can think of is procrastination. This should be something that you try to avoid at all costs. You can read my article on my effective ways to beat procrastination here.

Step 4 – Create a plan

Create a big plan. Map out how you want your life to look. Then identify your major goals. Then, identify smaller and smaller subsets of those goals that you can do in the shorter term to help you reach those goals.

If you want some extra help planning that, you should sign up for my free Dream Life Goal Planner that helps you find your passions and help you plan SMART goals in a way that will help you to achieve them!

Step 5 – Take action now!!

There’s no time like the present. You don’t want these dreams to stay as distant dreams, you want to start making them a reality.

As you work on these dreams more and more, you will start to feel more motivated and you will begin to see that this awesome life is really within your grasp.

And another thing to remember is to create a life that you enjoy while working towards the life of your dreams.

I have found that as I solidified what my ideals were and how I wanted to feel in life, I currently am living my dream life even though I have not reached all of the goals that I have.

You want to enjoy the journey.

And if you want some extra help designing your dream life and making it a reality, you should check out my Dream Life Goal Planner. It has everything you need to inspire and jump start your process of creating a life that you truly love. It has journal prompts, goal mapping inspiration, and a SMART goals worksheet! You can sign up at the bottom of this page!

10 Tips for Motivation When you Feel Totally Lost

10 Tips for Motivation When you Feel Totally Lost

How would you find your way if you were totally lost in a forest? If you were smart you would maybe have brought a compass (or google maps, you’re not a caveperson!) So what do you do if you forgot your compass and your phone is totally dead?

Well, you have to listen to your own internal compass.

I’ll be honest with you right now, but I don’t think that is actually great advice if you literally are lost in a forest, but I’m trying to do the whole analogy thing and paint a picture for you, okay?!

Well I’ll stop being all whimsical and get to the point.

Sometimes, when we are totally lost in our lives and we don’t know what advice we should take and which direction we should choose, we really need to take a deeper look inwards. We need to take a look at our feelings and figure out what we really want and start listening to that. 

This may seem a bit obvious, but a lot of the time, we are moving on autopilot and just going through the motions of life instead of actually doing what feels right to us. Then one day we realize that we are not where we want to be at all, which can cause stress, disappointment, depression, and the feeling of being completely lost. 

So, let’s take a look at how you can start looking inward to find motivation and direction when you feel totally lost.

First, you will need to do some serious self-reflection. Then, once you have figured out what you want, start taking action.

So let’s start with Self Reflection

Something that might help with this would be to write some of these things down in a journal. Some of the questions can make good journal prompts to get you going.

Step 1 – Figure out what is going wrong.

Ask yourself what is going wrong in your life right now. Why do you feel lost? Is there something missing in your life? What might you have too much of in your life (maybe you have too many stressors)?

Step 2 – Figure out what is going right

Maybe not everything in your life is so bad. There could be some good things too!

It’s important to reflect and see what you are enjoying in your life so that you can start doing more of it and enjoying yourself more.

You can ask yourself some of the following questions:

  • What has made you laugh recently?
  • What has made you feel energized?
  • Who makes you feel good when you are with them?

Tip: Try to do this at the end of each day for a week or so to get a good feel for what might consistently be bringing you a bit of joy.

Step 3 – Imagine Your Ideal Life

When you are feeling lost, a good idea is to remind yourself of what you ultimately want in life. This can help you to inspire you and give you some motivation!

Ask yourself how you want to feel, what you want your career to be, who you want to be surrounded by, etc.

Step 4 – What things are standing in the way of this ideal life?

Are there people standing in your way?

Are there things that you are doing that could be self-sabotaging? Is your career standing in your way?

Is anxiety standing in your way?

There could be many factors, so it’s important to spend some time on this and really assess what is going on.

Step 5 – Remove (or reduce) the negative pressures in your life

This is something that was a major cause of my anxiety for a long time and when I finally answered this question, my entire world changed.

I had spent so long trying to fit this life plan: go to school, get your degree, settle down with someone, work until you’re 65, then be too old to enjoy your time off. And I thought was the “right” way to live life and that it was basically the only option.

This was a combination of social pressure and pressure that I had put on myself.

But, once I started asking myself what I really wanted from life and realized that this expectation of me to live my life a certain way didn’t matter, everything started to change, and I essentially found my direction again.

So are there certain things that you think you have to be doing or things that people in your life are telling you that you should do?

If so, you need to start re-evaluating them to see if you actually need to live your life this way.

Taking action

Once you have reflected on your current state, it is time to make a plan and take action so you can find your direction and follow it!

Step 6 – Find Your Top 3 Action Steps

Write down some steps that you could take to get what you want.

Reflect on the ideal life you thought about in the first section. 

Write down 3-5 steps that you could take to reach that life that you want.

Step 7 – Break tasks from above into smaller task

Basically, you want to be able to have a set of easily actionable tasks that can get you to where you want.

To get to your dream life, this is going to be a huge list. But to arrive at a point where you feel how you want to feel, this list can be a lot shorter.

I’m definitely going to sound cliché here, but you want to enjoy the journey as much as the destination (ugh, ya I know I’m cheesy, but it’s true!), so you want to make sure that you feel great even while you are trying to create your dream life (or at least while you are finding your direction).

Step 8 – Create daily tasks

You can break the tasks you identified in step 7 into even smaller, daily tasks. 

The best way to find motivation and get your life back on track is to start doing small things every day.  It’s the small things that create BIG CHANGE.

Step 9 – Do one of these steps!

If you just start and make a bit of progress in the right direction, no matter how small, it is still progress. You will feel so much better and you will definitely feel less lost.

Step 10 – Make a plan to work towards your goals/that feeling that you want

Even if you are super busy, you can still spare 5-20 mins per day working towards that life that you want.

So take all of those little steps from step 8 and put them into a calendar – and start getting them done!

Once you have a plan, it will start making things real and you feel like you are back on track with your life again.

That’s what happened with me – I was so lost when I got out of school. I had no idea what I wanted, but I just took a few steps in the right direction by figuring out what I really wanted and it was seriously amazing! And from that point, it took me about 2 years to really start living my ideal life, but I still had a plan and hope, so the journey was honestly not too bad getting there.

Actually, I read this book: The Desire Map by Danielle Laporte and it really helped me find my direction again and get me back on track. She has a great style of writing and she’s very funny and real. It also comes with a workbook to help you dig down into what you really want.

So if you want some extra tips on how I started to make a plan to get my life back on track, you can check out my free Dream Life Goal Planner below! I

t comes with an awesome journaling exercise to figure out what you want (in more detail than this post) and then it gives you some serious concrete ways to start planning your goals and working towards an awesome life! I’m also working towards making a mindset training course – which is going to dive deeper into creating better habits that will keep your mental health on track as well as help you towards any goals that you have! You can sign up below!

How I found the courage to quit my job to travel the world

It’s the dream. Maybe not everyone’s dream, but for many people, quitting their jobs to go travel would be so amazing, yet most people don’t do it.


1.     Fear of the unknown – nobody wants to quite their cosy day job that pays them well and almost guarantees them security for years to come.

2.     Not enough money – kind of goes with the first point, but money can be a big roadblock for a lot of people.

Did I have these concerns when I quit to go travel?

Well, yes and no.

I mean, of course I had those concerns. It’s scary to quit your job and give up that “security” and money is always something to be concerned about.

How I made the decision: Risk vs. Reward

When I thought about all of the rewards and opportunities that could come from this, I basically had no other option.

When I pictured myself sitting at a desk for years to come, under such stress and not feeling that I was really doing myself – or the world, for that matter – any favours, I really couldn’t stomach it. My mind was made up, I had to get outta there!

Listening to my heart

I have always wanted to travel. Like really travel – going off on my own, staying in hostels, going on crazy adventures, but I never actually did it.

For years before I quit my job, I always put my desire to travel on the back burner because I either didn’t have enough money (or enough money that I wanted to spend on travel) or I was too busy with school or work.

I always thought that other things were so important.  But at that point, I don’t even think that I fully knew myself, so how could I know what was important to me.

I started to realize that I needed to find myself before making any other important decisions in my life.  And what better way than to go out traveling, exploring, having new experiences, and meeting new people with different perspectives to broaden my horizons!

My entire body and mind was filled with such an intense desire to just get out there and learn more about myself and the world. And just do some cool shit.

I think that if you really listen to yourself, you will start to realize what you really want. And then you have to go for it.

Dealing with the uncertainty of money

So yeah, I really wanted to travel, but then what was I supposed to do after going traveling? You can’t go traveling endlessly without some sort of income stream.

Well, that isn’t entirely true because there are actually lots of ways that you can travel while making some sort of income. But that’s a topic for another day.

What I did before I left my job was SAVE. I saved a lot of money. Thankfully I didn’t have that many expenses, but I also didn’t spend that much on frivolous things. I decided that freedom and travel were the most important things for me, so any time I was going to spend money – I reminded myself that that money could go towards travel instead!

And even if you don’t have a extremely well paying job, you can still start saving, little by little. You’d be surprised how much you save by just cutting down on some things, like going out partying so much, getting that new shirt, buying junk food, or your morning coffee from an expensive place.

But what about AFTER traveling?

I decided that after traveling for a few months, I would start working for myself. I am just at the very beginning of that right now, but I’m feeling very confident about it because I have a detailed plan.

And there is no guarantee that I will make money, but I’m a hard worker and I trust myself. I also know that if all else fails, I can go get a minimum wage job for a while until I get a “real” job. But that’s not going to happen, because I believe in myself!

Making a plan and believing in myself

Before I decided to quit, I did a lot of research on starting a business and making money as an entrepreneur.

In the end, I was very inspired to start working on things that I loved. But I had to weave through a lot of crap and negativity to get there.

People are always going to tell you not to do things.

You might even tell yourself not to do things.

This all comes from insecurities.

People will tell you that you can’t do something, because they are insecure and don’t believe that they could do it themselves. And in their minds, if they can’t, then neither can you.

You will tell yourself you can’t do something for the exact same reason.

But let me tell you something – you can do ANYTHING you want to! You just have to believe that you can do it and put the work in.

So if you get anything from this article, it should be to..

Trust yourself and don’t listen to the negativity!

Whatever your plan is, whether you want to quit your job to travel, you want to travel but have no money, you want to quit to travel but then get a job when you get back – you can do it!

All you have to do is believe in yourself, and do some research about how you are going to sustain the lifestyle that you want.

Now disclaimer: I am not saying that you should quit your job tomorrow and then just go travel with the hopes that you will come across some money. No. You need to research, and make sure that you will have a solid plan for having some source of income while you’re traveling, or when you get back.

This was not a willy nilly decision for me. It took months of research, budgeting, and planning to feel good about doing this.

BUT, you can’t wait until you feel fully comfortable about your decision because that will never happen. For anything good to happen in life, you need to take some risk and step outside of that enticing comfort zone!

So get comfortable being outside the comfort zone!

This is a bit of an oxymoron, and it’s also a bit cliché, but seriously, you need to get out of that comfort zone.

It’s a dangerous place to be. It’s where people fall into negative patterns and become complacent.

Anyone who has done anything great has stepped outside of their comfort zone.

Even if you do step outside of your comfort zone and totally get knocked down, all that will happen is that you learn from it and get stronger. That’s it.


You are strong. Even if you get knocked down, you will get back up.

If you really believe in yourself and take all your hardships and failures as lessons, you shouldn’t be afraid of anything! If there is some sort of struggle after you go traveling and you can’t get a job right away or make money, you will pull through and you will learn from it.

All will be good (as long as you believe that it will be).

So I hope that my story and my tips have inspired you today! If you would like me to elaborate on any of the points I mentioned, please let me know and I gladly will! I would love to hear from you!

If you want to start building you dream life and maybe consider quitting your job or making time for more travel, you should check you my Dream Life Goal Planner! It has everything you need to inspire and jump start your process of creating a life that you truly love. It has journal prompts, goal mapping inspiration, and a SMART goals worksheet! You can sign up at the bottom of this page!