A couple years ago I quit my high-paying job because it was making me stressed and unhappy. I took the time off to work on my mental health and figure out what I really wanted to do in life.
After a whole lotta soul-searching, I came to the realization that my one true calling was to create this blog, Mindaya. I wanted to help people, because I didn’t want anyone else to feel the way I was feeling at my worst (which you can read about here!).
Fast forward to today – I have my own online business, my mental health is in the BEST condition it’s ever been in, and I feel genuinely fulfilled. It was with this new, healthy mindset that I realized I was ready to go back to my 9-5 job. Why? because I knew that in order to make my dream work (this blog), I needed to have some extra money to help make it great. But this time, I wasn’t going to let my 9-5 job take over my life. Nope – this time, it was going to be on my own terms.
I’m now working again at the job I had years ago, but it’s a whole lot different now – that is, a whole lot better. So I thought I’d share with you how exactly I made this happen. *Spoiler alert* – it all came down to manifesting!
So to anyone else who feels “stuck” in a job or a routine that they don’t like or that makes them unhappy – I want you to know that you too have the power in you to choose what you want. Whether that’s shifting jobs, finding a new career path, starting a business, or finding the confidence to ask for what YOU want in your current job – it’s all totally possible!
Here are the things that I learned when manifesting my dream job
1. I knew what I wanted
When it comes to getting what you want in life, it’s important to take some time to make a goal plan and figure out what will truly make you happy on a deep level. This is going to take a lot of self-reflection, so make sure you spend some time on this.
For me, I discovered that the two things that would make me happy were:
- Using my creative talents
- Not working a ton of hours
I know that I’m not the type of person that can handle boatloads of work. I just don’t have it in me. I need my rest and relaxation time – and a lot of it.
I also know that I need to be creative to feel fulfilled. This is something that is really important to my wellbeing.
At the time, my 9-5 job wasn’t giving me these two things that I needed. It wasn’t allowing me to express my creative potential, and it was far too demanding of my time.
So I knew that to combat this, I needed to do two things: first, I needed to carve out a creative outlet for myself. Enter this blog, Mindaya! Second, I needed to significantly reduce my hours at my desk job (so that I could have enough time to spend on my creative outlet!).
2. I asked for what I wanted
This is something I have found to be very useful in my life when manifesting my desires and going after my goals. And it’s a very simple reason for why it works: you are letting people know what you want! You can’t get what you want if you don’t take any steps to go get it!
Everyone’s situation is very different, so use your judgement if you are asking for what you want. There are definitely limitations to this point, so this is more of just an idea for you based on what has worked for me.
For me, I knew that I needed to talk to my boss about my hours. So I floated the idea of less hours and the ability to work remotely.
Luckily, I had a great rapport with them already because I used to work with them (and they liked me!), so this was something that they were willing to agree to. Success!
The funny thing is, it was all so easy! It never occurred to me before that I could just ask for what I wanted, but that’s really all it took!
So once you know what you want, put some feelers out! Just see if what you want is a possibility, you may be surprised at what you’ll get!
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3. I knew my worth
When I was working at this job before, I wasn’t getting paid nearly as much as I am now. It was actually a stroke of luck that I saw the job posting online – and they were offering a lot more than I was making at the time!
This was probably to entice more experienced people to apply, but I knew that I was worth that much as well, even though I was less experienced.
I’ve always been uncomfortable asking for money and I was certainly uncomfortable when I asked for that much. So I really had to take a look at my needs, my values, my commitment, my strengths – and I finally came to the conclusion that I needed more money to support myself in the way I needed.
4. I had to be flexible
Although I’m now working my job on my own terms, it still may not be my “dream job” forever and ever. I know this. However, at the moment, it’s allowing me to live the lifestyle I want – and that’s the main thing. I know that in the future, my priorities may change and evolve, and this job may also change and evolve. And that’s totally okay.
Life changes every day, week, month, and year – and we all will inevitably change along with it. This is a beautiful thing, because change = growth. So I personally try not to get too attached to my current situation, whatever it may be.