A lot of us tend to think that in order to reach a high level of success, we need to be either extremely lucky or incredibly talented.
This, however, is just not true!
While talent and luck may definitely help in making us successful, they are NOT the most important factors.
So what is the most important factor to success? I’ll give you a hint – it’s something that’s available to every single one of us right now. That is:
Behind every successful person, there is the mindset that got them to where they are. These are people who are just like us, but who made a conscious decision to program their mindset for success.
And with a few simple tricks, you can learn how to do the same.
So if you have a goal in mind that you’ve been wanting to take action on, it’s time to start taking some tips from the experts. It’s time to start reframing your mindset for success.
Mindset trick #1: embrace failure
One of the biggest reasons successful people reach their level of success is because they have learned how to make friends with someone who most of us have sworn enemies with:
Now, there’s no denying that failure is frustrating. When we start doing something that we’re passionate about, it SUCKS when it doesn’t turn out well. It sucks when you can’t get the notes right on the guitar, it sucks when you get rejected from an audition, and it sucks when your new business just doesn’t seem to be getting off the ground.
But we can’t let this disappointment get in the way of trying again.
I know you’ve heard a million and one different variations of the phrase “if at first you don’t succeed, try try again”, but honestly, it goes even deeper than this.
It’s more than about just trying again, it’s about truly embracing (and EXPECTING) that you will fail – more than once.
If you want to reach your goals, you need to understand that failure will come hand-in-hand with the process.
The only option is to get on friendly terms with it!
Mindset trick #2: know that you can take the easy route
I’m going to let you in on a little secret: achieving your goals doesn’t always have to be challenging!
This is something that many high-preforming experts have realized. Unfortunately, however, many of us haven’t quite realized this yet.
For some reason, we tend to think that having a big goal automatically means that we will struggle to reach it. We have this notion in our mind that the road to success is always rocky and full of obstacles.
While there may be some truth in this, many experts would be quick to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, they’d tell you that the best way to reach your goals is to take the easy route wherever possible!
This doesn’t mean cutting corners, it just means finding creative ways to achieve to your goals faster and with less effort (in other words, more efficiently!).
Some examples of taking the easy route to achieving your goals include:
- Focusing on things you’re already good at: use your natural talents as your starting point
- Allowing yourself more time to achieve your goal: there’s no need to try to accomplish miracles overnight
- Breaking down your goal into smaller, do-able chunks: turn one big goal into multiple smaller goals
- Making your goal genuinely attainable: balance your idealism with a good dose of realism
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Mindset trick #3: know that you have enough time
Patience is a virtue that most successful people have plenty of. They understand that achieving their goals will take time, and they allow the process to unfold without rushing it or getting bored.
They may have a thousand ideas in their mind of what they want to do, but they have an incredible ability to laser focus on just ONE idea at a time.
This is something that a lot of people (myself included) struggle with.
If you’re anything like me, you probably get super excited thinking about all of your awesome goal ideas. I could do this! And I could do this! But wait…I could also do this!
With a head full of inspiration, it can be hard to press pause and choose just one goal to work on.
But if we want to actually achieve our goals, we NEED to learn how to press pause, and we NEED to learn how to have patience.
The best way to do this is to reassure yourself that you have time. Know that after you achieve this goal, you can work on your next goal, and then your next one, and so on and so forth. You have time to do all of this.
Slow down, take a deep breath, and just enjoy the process – one awesome goal at a time.
Mindset trick #4: understand the importance of balance
Life is full and life is rich – and this is what keeps it so interesting!
There are so many amazing things in life – friends, family, love, food, dancing, singing, coffee, nature, baths, grocery shopping (well, sometimes grocery shopping!).
Enjoying all of these things in life is what keeps our bodies and our minds healthy.
Successful people know this. They know that while their goals are an important part of their lives, they’re not the ONLY part of their lives. No matter how much work they put into achieving their goals, they never forget about the rest of the world. And they never forget to rest.
Sure, it may be true that Elon Musk worked upwards of 20 hours a day to get to where he is, but I can guarentee you that most successful people haven’t sacrificed their life simply in blind pursuit of their goal.
Why? Because it’s the other beautiful things in life that keep us balanced. And it’s this balance that will lead us steadily and healthily towards our goals in the long run.
Mindset trick #5: expect that you won’t always be motivated
It may seem natural to think that since our goals are ultimately our passions, we should always feel inspired to work towards them.
If only it were this simple.
We have to remember that we’re humans. As humans, we get lazy, we get moody, and we have days where we just don’t want to do a thing!
Even if working towards our goal makes us feel incredibly fulfilled, this doesn’t mean that we will always want to do it. There will be times when we feel resistance – sometimes a little, sometimes a lot.
The difference between successful people and not-as successful people is that successful people expect this resistance. They expect that sometimes (or a lot of the time) they won’t feel like working towards their goals. But what do they do?
They do it anyway.
They reframe their mindset from thinking about their goals as simply their “passion” or “hobby” to thinking about them as an actual job that they have to do. The more they do this, the more they develop the self-discipline to work on their goals consistently.
And it’s this consistency that, over time, leads to amazing results.
Mindset trick #6: think of your goals strategically, not just emotionally
A lot of the time when we think about goals, we tend to think of them as very emotional things. After all, they are rooted in our dreams, our passions, and our innermost desires, so of course they’re emotional – right?
Well, yes. However, successful people know how to separate the emotional side of their goals with the practical side.
They know that while it’s emotion that keeps their dreams alive, it’s practicality that will turn these dreams into a reality.
When you think about your goals, you need to make sure that you’re thinking about them logically. This could mean, for example:
- Writing down the steps you need to take to get there
- Defining what your biggest priorities are
- Defining what challenges may arise (and how you’ll tackle them)
- Setting a timeline for reaching your goal
A great technique for helping you do this is to reverse engineer your goals. This is when you work backwards from your goal in order to come up with a goal plan. Instead of asking yourself “where do I start?”, ask yourself “what steps did I take to get here?”.
It’s certainly not the glamorous stuff, but it’s important all the same.
Mindset trick #7: know that it all comes down to action
At the end of the day, the number one thing that differentiates successful people from people who aren’t as successful is that successful people take action.
It may sound overly simple, but just because something is simple doesn’t mean it’s easy.
Too often, we tend to get caught up in over-thinking about our goals. We watch YouTube videos about goal setting, we write down all of our goals in our journal, and we think about how we’re going to achieve these goals.
While this is absolutely GREAT and absolutely NECESSARY, it’s important to remember that the real magic lies within the actual doing.
So if you ever find yourself getting caught up in a bit too much planning, talking, or daydreaming about your goal, remind yourself to get up and actually go DO what it is you’re planning, talking, and daydreaming about!
Action is the only thing lying between you and success. So what are you waiting for?
“Dream big, start small, but most of all, start” – Simon Sinek